She came mid December....
It was so good to pick her up in the new CRV. Ms L wanted me to drive her car, her brand new 1 week old car and I have never driven a CRV ever in my life and I didn't know the car had no handbrakes :-) It was so funny coz Ms L did not know that too!!
The airport was in a mess, but we found her. It was nice to see her looking good after the long flight. She was just happy to see us and that is what matters most to us, good friends, good laughs and of course good chats.
A month off with my friends, this is how I like to end my year, with happy smiles and laughter in the air.....
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Wednesday, November 17, 2010
1.01am
I had a conversation at 1.01am on Wednesday morning...
Dimple Walla/Starbucks (DW/SB) will be in town on Friday next week and I need to go to KL that weekend as my flight will be from KL to China. Hence I called him to ask if it is okay for me to follow him to KL and he said yes, he will be leaving to KL on Sunday after lunch.
As usual, we did not end our conversation there, it just went on with lots of topics to be discussed. We talked about being vegetarian and eating garlic and onion, we talked about Tamil, we talked a number of things... and the conversation led to funerals, Tamil funerals to be precise.
Dimple Walla/Starbucks (DW/SB) will be in town on Friday next week and I need to go to KL that weekend as my flight will be from KL to China. Hence I called him to ask if it is okay for me to follow him to KL and he said yes, he will be leaving to KL on Sunday after lunch.
As usual, we did not end our conversation there, it just went on with lots of topics to be discussed. We talked about being vegetarian and eating garlic and onion, we talked about Tamil, we talked a number of things... and the conversation led to funerals, Tamil funerals to be precise.
I was telling him that it is sad/cruel when they remove the thalli and break bangles of the widow during the funeral and to my surprise DW said that is the right thing to do. Apparently according to him, the widow is psychologically prepped to say that her bond with her husband is thus non existence and hence the that ceremony will do her good. Further to that, his family will present to the widow a white saree. I was really shocked when I heard that and asked him, "why don't you stop all these", forgive my ignorance here for a moment, I thought DW is different a bit from other Indian guys, hence I thought he will condemn to such actions but to my amazement, he said 'why should I? This is the procedure and that is the right thing to do"....
I was lost for words for a while and I did tell him that I am so disappointed in him. I told him that I thought he is one person who thinks outside the box and how could he ask anyone to be in a white saree and stop wearing bright colours or any colours for that matter. To that he asked me, when I got my divorce, did I remove my thalli... I told him, when I decided to be out from my relationship with Kutty, I removed 3 things: my thalli, my minji and the kungumum I put on my forehead. The bangles, the colour, the flowers all remained in my life as these were the things I was using even before I got married.
Personally, I would be okay if I choose to wear if my husband dies but not because society wants me to do so. I will remove my thalli, I will remove my minji and I will also respect the fact I am not going to be putting flowers on my hair... I might choose to do alot of other things to respect the memory of my husband but I seriously do not like this man-made procedures that is so biased. Why isn't it that a husband who lost his wife have an identity as a widower? Wearing a white saree, no pottu, no flowers that is how a widow should be then how about the widower? His life goes on as normal is it?
Another thing that upsetted me further was that DW said, a widow who is a mother should not be there at the front line during her child's wedding. Now tell me, how narrow minded can DW be? A mother who brought up the child is not allowed to stand there at the mannavarai just coz she has lost her husband? I mean she was the one who brought up the child for Godsake, she was the one who was there when the child cried, she was the one behind every move of her child's life and this big important chapter in her child's life and she is not allowed to be there.
I really really was disappointed with DW, I expected more from him, I did tell him about it as well... I did ask him why are we arguing about this, it is a matter of opinion and his opinion just does not matter to me...
It was 3.31am when we ended our conversation. I donno if he was arguing with me for the sake of arguing or was this his stand in life....
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Dumbo's wedding
My best friend got married on 22nd May....
Yeap, after a long wait, Dumbo tied the knot. It was a beautiful church wedding, I was there early as he wanted me to come there to help out at the church. I was in a purple saree, the saree my mama gave me on my wedding...
It was a simple wedding, not many people there, just close friends and family members. Jo looked smashing in her wedding gown and of course my Dumbo looked good in his tux. After the ceremony the couple walked down the aisle and Dumbo stopped and gave me a hug...it was nice, my Dumbo finally married...
I went for the dinner earlier as well as I was needed to usher in the guests. When I was there, Dumbo's mom entrusted me with the ang pows, so his sister in law to be and me were happy receiving guests and taking the ang pows :-) I would actually say that even my own wedding I did not recieve so much red packets :-)
The dinner was fun, I met my 'thamby' who came alone so that he could spend more time with all of us, W came with her hubby, Panjang came alone, WS came with his wife and well the gang was there. I was mercilessly teased by everyone there... W's hubby wanted me to sit with him, he now understands me, he knows how close I can be with the other guys but not with him. We had fun, we were laughing, we spoke for hours refusing to leave the wedding hall and we just caught up with old times...
May 22nd was a wonderful day... am just happy...
Yeap, after a long wait, Dumbo tied the knot. It was a beautiful church wedding, I was there early as he wanted me to come there to help out at the church. I was in a purple saree, the saree my mama gave me on my wedding...
It was a simple wedding, not many people there, just close friends and family members. Jo looked smashing in her wedding gown and of course my Dumbo looked good in his tux. After the ceremony the couple walked down the aisle and Dumbo stopped and gave me a hug...it was nice, my Dumbo finally married...
I went for the dinner earlier as well as I was needed to usher in the guests. When I was there, Dumbo's mom entrusted me with the ang pows, so his sister in law to be and me were happy receiving guests and taking the ang pows :-) I would actually say that even my own wedding I did not recieve so much red packets :-)
The dinner was fun, I met my 'thamby' who came alone so that he could spend more time with all of us, W came with her hubby, Panjang came alone, WS came with his wife and well the gang was there. I was mercilessly teased by everyone there... W's hubby wanted me to sit with him, he now understands me, he knows how close I can be with the other guys but not with him. We had fun, we were laughing, we spoke for hours refusing to leave the wedding hall and we just caught up with old times...
May 22nd was a wonderful day... am just happy...
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Saturday afternoon with Dimple walla
He came to my house...
I was suppose to meet dimple walla for dinner on Friday nite. He called me on Friday morning asking when am I free today... as usual, he did not wait for my answer and just said he will pick me up at about 8pm for dinner. Well I give up arguing with him... but just before 8pm, he messaged saying he could not make it on the nite and wanted to meet the following day at 2pm.
I replied no, can we meet at 3pm instead and he was upset about me changing the time. Seriously, dimple walla thinks he is the only person/agenda in my life!! I called him and we agreed to meet for breakfast at 9.30am and he did give me a fair warning saying that if he manage to wake up that early...
Anyway, I slept well on Friday nite contrary to my own jugdement.. I was not excited nope, am not fooling myself... I was just okay about meeting him. I was up early and gave Romeo, Juliet and Hamlet a nice long bath and cleaned up the front. I took my shower and I think I was ready for breakfast before 9.30. While waiting for him, I started doing my work and it was about 10 something that he messaged that he will be there by 11 as he just got up!
By now my tummy was making a bit more noise as I was seriously getting hungry and I had nothing in the house to eat....I just carried on with my work and finally at just before noon, he called me to say he has to cancel the appointment and hopefully we can meet next year. I said no problems but in my mind, I was scolding him and was thinking what am I going to cook now... I was about to put the phone down and he said he is actually out now and he is at Lebuh Pekaka..... right infront of my house.... and that was when I started scolding him:-)
I asked him to give me a moment to shut down my notebook when he said he wanted to come in. Now, last nite I did ask him if he wants to meet the dogs as he said he has one sitting right at his feet while we were talking, his mom's dog, but he declined the offer. Anyway, I thought he wanted to use the washroom and so I said, fine, park your car and just come in. Dimple walla is scared of the dogs...the 3 guys were not even barking at him!!
He came to the house and he saw my Krshnas and then he came to the kitchen and was checking out my kitchen and the backyard. We were sitting at the dining table when he asked if he can use the internet as he wanted to check his mails. I told him the net connection is in my bedroom and it is upstairs and asked if he was okay with that? My mind was working very fast, trying to figure out the condition of my room and I was seriously hoping to hear him to say no but he did not!!
We went up to the room and he got a schock of his life when he saw all the bears and soft toys. I only introduced him to Teddy, told him Teddy is 32 years old and he was impressed. Thank god Teddy is younger than him :-) Anyway, I set up the net connection and switched on the air cond and told him I will leave the room, he said no, stay in the room with him. We were talking while he was using the net... once he finished, he said, you really like Krshna and I told him that is an understatement!!
Dimple walla was nice, he did not say or imply anything else when we were alone in the room. We finally went for lunch, he took such a long drive and I was wondering what is wrong with this guy. Over lunch we were chatting away as usual, not so much of arguing these days but more laughter and more communication. We were talking about the Indus civilization and he has his on theory which of course only applies to him lah!
I asked him a question, whether he thinks he is superior than others and his answer did not surprise me at all... he said yes... and that made me laugh out loud. He laughed with me too and he was trying to explain why he thinks so... this is a guy full of ego and lacking greatly on humility..... this is my dimple walla and I do not expect anything less from him. He knows I can just accept him as who he is and finally I can see that he is accepting me as who I am....
We finished our lunch in 3 hours, we had a good conversation and I seriously had a good time with a friend. I know I like him alot, it is nice to have to someone to talk to and the fact that I do not meet him all the time is good too.
I am not sure when I am going to see him again... may be next year or may be sooner but whatever it is, I do wish him well. I like my dimple walla as he is and no matter how I feel about him, I just would love to be his friend and only as his friend as that is the only relationship I can afford to have with him...
I was suppose to meet dimple walla for dinner on Friday nite. He called me on Friday morning asking when am I free today... as usual, he did not wait for my answer and just said he will pick me up at about 8pm for dinner. Well I give up arguing with him... but just before 8pm, he messaged saying he could not make it on the nite and wanted to meet the following day at 2pm.
I replied no, can we meet at 3pm instead and he was upset about me changing the time. Seriously, dimple walla thinks he is the only person/agenda in my life!! I called him and we agreed to meet for breakfast at 9.30am and he did give me a fair warning saying that if he manage to wake up that early...
Anyway, I slept well on Friday nite contrary to my own jugdement.. I was not excited nope, am not fooling myself... I was just okay about meeting him. I was up early and gave Romeo, Juliet and Hamlet a nice long bath and cleaned up the front. I took my shower and I think I was ready for breakfast before 9.30. While waiting for him, I started doing my work and it was about 10 something that he messaged that he will be there by 11 as he just got up!
By now my tummy was making a bit more noise as I was seriously getting hungry and I had nothing in the house to eat....I just carried on with my work and finally at just before noon, he called me to say he has to cancel the appointment and hopefully we can meet next year. I said no problems but in my mind, I was scolding him and was thinking what am I going to cook now... I was about to put the phone down and he said he is actually out now and he is at Lebuh Pekaka..... right infront of my house.... and that was when I started scolding him:-)
I asked him to give me a moment to shut down my notebook when he said he wanted to come in. Now, last nite I did ask him if he wants to meet the dogs as he said he has one sitting right at his feet while we were talking, his mom's dog, but he declined the offer. Anyway, I thought he wanted to use the washroom and so I said, fine, park your car and just come in. Dimple walla is scared of the dogs...the 3 guys were not even barking at him!!
He came to the house and he saw my Krshnas and then he came to the kitchen and was checking out my kitchen and the backyard. We were sitting at the dining table when he asked if he can use the internet as he wanted to check his mails. I told him the net connection is in my bedroom and it is upstairs and asked if he was okay with that? My mind was working very fast, trying to figure out the condition of my room and I was seriously hoping to hear him to say no but he did not!!
We went up to the room and he got a schock of his life when he saw all the bears and soft toys. I only introduced him to Teddy, told him Teddy is 32 years old and he was impressed. Thank god Teddy is younger than him :-) Anyway, I set up the net connection and switched on the air cond and told him I will leave the room, he said no, stay in the room with him. We were talking while he was using the net... once he finished, he said, you really like Krshna and I told him that is an understatement!!
Dimple walla was nice, he did not say or imply anything else when we were alone in the room. We finally went for lunch, he took such a long drive and I was wondering what is wrong with this guy. Over lunch we were chatting away as usual, not so much of arguing these days but more laughter and more communication. We were talking about the Indus civilization and he has his on theory which of course only applies to him lah!
I asked him a question, whether he thinks he is superior than others and his answer did not surprise me at all... he said yes... and that made me laugh out loud. He laughed with me too and he was trying to explain why he thinks so... this is a guy full of ego and lacking greatly on humility..... this is my dimple walla and I do not expect anything less from him. He knows I can just accept him as who he is and finally I can see that he is accepting me as who I am....
We finished our lunch in 3 hours, we had a good conversation and I seriously had a good time with a friend. I know I like him alot, it is nice to have to someone to talk to and the fact that I do not meet him all the time is good too.
I am not sure when I am going to see him again... may be next year or may be sooner but whatever it is, I do wish him well. I like my dimple walla as he is and no matter how I feel about him, I just would love to be his friend and only as his friend as that is the only relationship I can afford to have with him...
Monday, October 4, 2010
Hey Rum!
R in my life...
Have been chatting with a guy for a couple of weeks now and he is a decent guy. He is married and has a beautiful girl who loves playing cricket. I enjoy my chats with him, I call him sayang, dear as I would do with everyone I am comfortable with.
I am not sure what is R's role in my life, I do beleive everyone we met does not happen by chance. R is here for a purpose and whatever his purpose is to be, I know it will be a good positive purpose in my life...
At the moment, I tell him my menu almost everyday. He will happily invite me to whereever he is travelling too and I accept his offers graciously :-) I keep telling him that 1 day his wife is going to come and skin me alive :-)
I would love to meet R with his wife and daughter. He talks fondly about them, it is nice to see the love in his chats. I do pray that Krshna blesses R and his family.
Let's hope this is a beginning of a beautiful friendship... thx Krshna
Have been chatting with a guy for a couple of weeks now and he is a decent guy. He is married and has a beautiful girl who loves playing cricket. I enjoy my chats with him, I call him sayang, dear as I would do with everyone I am comfortable with.
I am not sure what is R's role in my life, I do beleive everyone we met does not happen by chance. R is here for a purpose and whatever his purpose is to be, I know it will be a good positive purpose in my life...
At the moment, I tell him my menu almost everyday. He will happily invite me to whereever he is travelling too and I accept his offers graciously :-) I keep telling him that 1 day his wife is going to come and skin me alive :-)
I would love to meet R with his wife and daughter. He talks fondly about them, it is nice to see the love in his chats. I do pray that Krshna blesses R and his family.
Let's hope this is a beginning of a beautiful friendship... thx Krshna
Sunday, October 3, 2010
Consultation
I passed......
Yeap, 14 weeks of sleepless nites, hypertension, neck pain... all were paid off when I cleared my consultation presentation and passed the module...
It was a good day on Sunday, I was at Tesco Seberang Jaya waiting for my partner at sharp 7am. I donno whether I was nervous or not going for the presentation, I knew I have done my part and this is just to tie it all up. We had a pleasant drive, it was raining and the hills looked so clear and covered with mist. My partner kept saying he has never noticed such things but since I like all these, I kept pointing out to him all the things I was viewing and enjoying and he was a happy participant... and when I cried out of joy after seeing the rainbow, he just joined in with my happiness...
We had a good day in the university, I was happy with my results, he is still waiting for his, it will be a week before he would know if he passed or otherwise... deep inside me I know he would pass!
Our drive back to Penang was really interesting, as usual, we were talking, not looking out at the scenery but just talking. I told him about what happened between Kutty and me and my partner, D, was so mad. He kept telling me I have to stop all communication with Kutty and he kept saying from a guy's perspective, no other guy would want to be with me if I am still in a relationship with Kutty. It took me a while to explain to D that I am not in a relationship with Kutty, I am sure of that now...very sure!
D asked if I am involved with anyone, I said no, but I told him I do like someone but it is forbidden as the guy I like is a married man and it is a sin! I told D that I like Dimple walla but I also realise I like talking to him, having a conversation, for that D said, you are looking for a matured conversation... I said yes, that's it, that is all that I want from Dimple walla..
I enjoy my conversation with D too, I like the way he takes charge on matters, it is easy, I do not have to plan or think when I am with him... we did not go for lunch yesterday as I am still fasting and when I told D it is okay, we can go for lunch, he refused, saying that he has to respect my belief... how sweet...
Anyway, D is on the lookout for me, he asked if I am okay about different races, I said yes, religion, I said yes too... and I was telling him about my Dumbo and people I hang out with. He should know better since I am closer to him compared to the others in the cohort!
It was a good and rewarding Sunday.... the fantastic drive, the blessed scenery, the good result and finally a great friend to be with....
Yeap, 14 weeks of sleepless nites, hypertension, neck pain... all were paid off when I cleared my consultation presentation and passed the module...
It was a good day on Sunday, I was at Tesco Seberang Jaya waiting for my partner at sharp 7am. I donno whether I was nervous or not going for the presentation, I knew I have done my part and this is just to tie it all up. We had a pleasant drive, it was raining and the hills looked so clear and covered with mist. My partner kept saying he has never noticed such things but since I like all these, I kept pointing out to him all the things I was viewing and enjoying and he was a happy participant... and when I cried out of joy after seeing the rainbow, he just joined in with my happiness...
We had a good day in the university, I was happy with my results, he is still waiting for his, it will be a week before he would know if he passed or otherwise... deep inside me I know he would pass!
Our drive back to Penang was really interesting, as usual, we were talking, not looking out at the scenery but just talking. I told him about what happened between Kutty and me and my partner, D, was so mad. He kept telling me I have to stop all communication with Kutty and he kept saying from a guy's perspective, no other guy would want to be with me if I am still in a relationship with Kutty. It took me a while to explain to D that I am not in a relationship with Kutty, I am sure of that now...very sure!
D asked if I am involved with anyone, I said no, but I told him I do like someone but it is forbidden as the guy I like is a married man and it is a sin! I told D that I like Dimple walla but I also realise I like talking to him, having a conversation, for that D said, you are looking for a matured conversation... I said yes, that's it, that is all that I want from Dimple walla..
I enjoy my conversation with D too, I like the way he takes charge on matters, it is easy, I do not have to plan or think when I am with him... we did not go for lunch yesterday as I am still fasting and when I told D it is okay, we can go for lunch, he refused, saying that he has to respect my belief... how sweet...
Anyway, D is on the lookout for me, he asked if I am okay about different races, I said yes, religion, I said yes too... and I was telling him about my Dumbo and people I hang out with. He should know better since I am closer to him compared to the others in the cohort!
It was a good and rewarding Sunday.... the fantastic drive, the blessed scenery, the good result and finally a great friend to be with....
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Starbuck's brother
Yeap, I met his brother....
I have no clue why I am being introduced to one by one of his family members :-) Nope, nothing is happening between us, just that I know about his younger sister, now his younger brother and I also know that his elder brother is married and lives in KL.
His younger brother, he is cute, kind of looks up at the big brother. We went out for tea and to get to the place, we had to cross the road. Knowing how nuts I am about crossing the road, I told starbuck's brother that I will hold his hands and I did and we crossed the road. Somehow I know I would not have done that if it was just me and SB. Anyway, during tea, as usual, SB and I got into an argument and we totally forgot his brother was there. We only realised that he was there when we heard him laughing.....that was bad!!
I am happy these days meeting people.. I have no idea what is going to happen tomorrow, I donno what life is all about... but it is good.. as I am making a choice that life is good...
I have no clue why I am being introduced to one by one of his family members :-) Nope, nothing is happening between us, just that I know about his younger sister, now his younger brother and I also know that his elder brother is married and lives in KL.
His younger brother, he is cute, kind of looks up at the big brother. We went out for tea and to get to the place, we had to cross the road. Knowing how nuts I am about crossing the road, I told starbuck's brother that I will hold his hands and I did and we crossed the road. Somehow I know I would not have done that if it was just me and SB. Anyway, during tea, as usual, SB and I got into an argument and we totally forgot his brother was there. We only realised that he was there when we heard him laughing.....that was bad!!
I am happy these days meeting people.. I have no idea what is going to happen tomorrow, I donno what life is all about... but it is good.. as I am making a choice that life is good...
My Chettiar
He came into my life through Shaadi....
Yes, I am registered on Shaadi, a matrimonial websites and I did come accross a number of interesting encounters and the most interesting would be my chettiar....that is how I call him, my chettiar and he seems to be okay to be called so.
Chettiar and I have lots in common, he too lives without a partner and he too could not move on eventhough he is convincing himself he is ready to move on .... just like me. One day when I was talking to him, he was saying about all his plans were dashed, his dreams, his life...somehow it hit the right cord in me too....I know what he was saying, if felt as if I was saying that to myself...that was the moment I knew that chettiar and I are in the same boat and that he would understand me when I moan and groan once in a while on all the things that happened in my life....
He is fun to talk to :-) I am loving every moment I talk to him as I am distrubing him every moment, he is being teased, flirted with and bullied all the time....he knows I am having my fun and my chettiar retaliates too...he is a great teaser as well :-)
He has a beautiful daughter, 7 yrs old who lives with her mom. Listening to him talking about her melts my heart and on her birthday, he called me and he started crying. My heart went all out for him...he was in pain...great pain. I told him to start a new tradition, celebrate her birthday again when she is with him, take photos and start new memories...chettiar kept saying that he was never in any of his daughter's birthday photos.... He was out from her life when she was barely 6 months old... I donno what exactly happened in his life but whatever it was, the pain is always there for everyone!
Life goes on, I keep telling him that, chettiar brings my spirit up when I am down and I do the same to him too. We seem to understand somethings, it is not that we agree to everything but somehow it is comforting to know that I am not the only one who is not able to handle this life!
I do hope I will be part of chettiar's life, as a friend, if he wants to... I am okay too if he decides to leave as I do think I know his purpose to walk into my life. It has been more than a month I have been talking to my chettiar and I am beginning to know him better each day... as for him, he says I am giving him shocks everytime I talk to him!!!
Hope this is a beginning of a beautiful friendship!
Yes, I am registered on Shaadi, a matrimonial websites and I did come accross a number of interesting encounters and the most interesting would be my chettiar....that is how I call him, my chettiar and he seems to be okay to be called so.
Chettiar and I have lots in common, he too lives without a partner and he too could not move on eventhough he is convincing himself he is ready to move on .... just like me. One day when I was talking to him, he was saying about all his plans were dashed, his dreams, his life...somehow it hit the right cord in me too....I know what he was saying, if felt as if I was saying that to myself...that was the moment I knew that chettiar and I are in the same boat and that he would understand me when I moan and groan once in a while on all the things that happened in my life....
He is fun to talk to :-) I am loving every moment I talk to him as I am distrubing him every moment, he is being teased, flirted with and bullied all the time....he knows I am having my fun and my chettiar retaliates too...he is a great teaser as well :-)
He has a beautiful daughter, 7 yrs old who lives with her mom. Listening to him talking about her melts my heart and on her birthday, he called me and he started crying. My heart went all out for him...he was in pain...great pain. I told him to start a new tradition, celebrate her birthday again when she is with him, take photos and start new memories...chettiar kept saying that he was never in any of his daughter's birthday photos.... He was out from her life when she was barely 6 months old... I donno what exactly happened in his life but whatever it was, the pain is always there for everyone!
Life goes on, I keep telling him that, chettiar brings my spirit up when I am down and I do the same to him too. We seem to understand somethings, it is not that we agree to everything but somehow it is comforting to know that I am not the only one who is not able to handle this life!
I do hope I will be part of chettiar's life, as a friend, if he wants to... I am okay too if he decides to leave as I do think I know his purpose to walk into my life. It has been more than a month I have been talking to my chettiar and I am beginning to know him better each day... as for him, he says I am giving him shocks everytime I talk to him!!!
Hope this is a beginning of a beautiful friendship!
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
MACB, Mrs C and I
The gang met up!!
Mrs C and I drove down to Shah Alam to meet MACB and it was a good trip. It was nice to meet up our ex-boss. He picked us up from the hotel and drove us around, we went for Sherlock Holmes, coffee and dinner. It was nice to catch up with him...
Tomorrow is his birthday, the same date as amma's birthday. I remember buying 2 cakes, 1 for amma and another for him. Having him in my life has definitely enriched my life. I am blessed to have all these loving people in my life and Mrs C pointed out, friends are valuable assets in our lives and I agree to that whole heartedly...
MACB, Mrs C, P, doc and many others have certainly enriched my life and I thank you Krshna for giving them to me...
Mrs C and I drove down to Shah Alam to meet MACB and it was a good trip. It was nice to meet up our ex-boss. He picked us up from the hotel and drove us around, we went for Sherlock Holmes, coffee and dinner. It was nice to catch up with him...
Tomorrow is his birthday, the same date as amma's birthday. I remember buying 2 cakes, 1 for amma and another for him. Having him in my life has definitely enriched my life. I am blessed to have all these loving people in my life and Mrs C pointed out, friends are valuable assets in our lives and I agree to that whole heartedly...
MACB, Mrs C, P, doc and many others have certainly enriched my life and I thank you Krshna for giving them to me...
Thursday, October 8, 2009
A J
The first guy who proposed marriage to me....
I got to know AJ when he was in Scotland...it was 1995.....I was planning to go to Glasgow to do my masters and when I surfed for info, I came across Uni of Strathclyde... I mailed their student support and received an email from AJ...and that was the beginning of a beautiful friendship...
AJ was a sweet Delhi-walla who was doing his Masters in International Business, he was single and he was nice...we wrote emails initially till he went back to Delhi and our emails became snail mails and we write...both of us...and when I mean by writing, I am talking about receiving aletter 8 or 10 pages long and I will match the length as well...
We really got to know each other well during those years of writing...we have never spoken on the phone... 1 day, AJ's work took him to Jakarta and from Jakarta he flew to Bangkok and later back home. It was in Bangkok airport that he called me...I was just entering my house when the phone rang and I guess I was shocked to know it was him...we spoke for a while...I was quiet...yeap...that was seriously not me!! He told me that when flying from Jakarta to Bangkok, he knew he was passing Penang and he was wishing that the plane would just stopover in Penang...he was sweet...
He went back to Delhi and the next thing I knew, I recieved an express mail...he was asking for my jathagam...he had told his family his intention to marry me...he calls me his international bride...it was 1997..I just lost my appa...and I could not bring myself to leave my family to be with him...I was young..scared of the unknown...new language, new people...and I said no...
End of 1997, I went to South India and the moment I set foot in Chennai, I called him...I will tell him where I will be staying and will give my hotel details and I know in the evening he will call me and we will talk for hours...whenever possible, I will call him...I got very familiar with STDs in South India..I will look for them whereever we went...from Ooty to Mysore to Tanjavoor... he kept telling me to come to Delhi...just take a flight and come and meet my family...that is what he told me....
In Feb 1998, he got married to a girl of his family's choice...nope...it did not break my heart...I love AJ but at the same time I knew I won't fit into his environment....
I did meet him...in 1999...the moment I saw him...I received a big hug....I know how much we loved each other.... his wife was not with him at that time, she was back in her mom's house...it was good to have met him...eventhough we did not say anything to each other but we knew we had something special...his mom was scared that we would do something...so she will always send a chaperone :-)
Anyway, lots of things happened in our lives.... till today we are good friends.....I know if he is okay or not by just looking at the hello in his mails....he will always send me an email the moment I think about him and somehow I know something is not right with him in my heart....
A couple of months back.....he made me cry.... he said he knew how we felt for each other but alas it was not meant to be.....I know that too......if he asked me now if I will marry him.....the answer will be......yes, without a single doubt in my heart and mind........
I got to know AJ when he was in Scotland...it was 1995.....I was planning to go to Glasgow to do my masters and when I surfed for info, I came across Uni of Strathclyde... I mailed their student support and received an email from AJ...and that was the beginning of a beautiful friendship...
AJ was a sweet Delhi-walla who was doing his Masters in International Business, he was single and he was nice...we wrote emails initially till he went back to Delhi and our emails became snail mails and we write...both of us...and when I mean by writing, I am talking about receiving aletter 8 or 10 pages long and I will match the length as well...
We really got to know each other well during those years of writing...we have never spoken on the phone... 1 day, AJ's work took him to Jakarta and from Jakarta he flew to Bangkok and later back home. It was in Bangkok airport that he called me...I was just entering my house when the phone rang and I guess I was shocked to know it was him...we spoke for a while...I was quiet...yeap...that was seriously not me!! He told me that when flying from Jakarta to Bangkok, he knew he was passing Penang and he was wishing that the plane would just stopover in Penang...he was sweet...
He went back to Delhi and the next thing I knew, I recieved an express mail...he was asking for my jathagam...he had told his family his intention to marry me...he calls me his international bride...it was 1997..I just lost my appa...and I could not bring myself to leave my family to be with him...I was young..scared of the unknown...new language, new people...and I said no...
End of 1997, I went to South India and the moment I set foot in Chennai, I called him...I will tell him where I will be staying and will give my hotel details and I know in the evening he will call me and we will talk for hours...whenever possible, I will call him...I got very familiar with STDs in South India..I will look for them whereever we went...from Ooty to Mysore to Tanjavoor... he kept telling me to come to Delhi...just take a flight and come and meet my family...that is what he told me....
In Feb 1998, he got married to a girl of his family's choice...nope...it did not break my heart...I love AJ but at the same time I knew I won't fit into his environment....
I did meet him...in 1999...the moment I saw him...I received a big hug....I know how much we loved each other.... his wife was not with him at that time, she was back in her mom's house...it was good to have met him...eventhough we did not say anything to each other but we knew we had something special...his mom was scared that we would do something...so she will always send a chaperone :-)
Anyway, lots of things happened in our lives.... till today we are good friends.....I know if he is okay or not by just looking at the hello in his mails....he will always send me an email the moment I think about him and somehow I know something is not right with him in my heart....
A couple of months back.....he made me cry.... he said he knew how we felt for each other but alas it was not meant to be.....I know that too......if he asked me now if I will marry him.....the answer will be......yes, without a single doubt in my heart and mind........
Monday, September 28, 2009
Trip back home
Thursday came too soon...
I was having a good time in KL...actually I do think this is the first time I went out so much when I was in KL. On Wednesday morning, I walked in Bukit Jalil park with my nephew, N, and we both enjoyed the walk and talk..you learn alot from a teenager....
Thursday, abang decided we make our trip back to Penang at 3pm and we were to meet in KL Sentral...we were both there on time and it was just the 2 of us on our way back..I had more bags on my way back...
I do think I talked alot, from the moment I got into the car I was talking till we arrived in Penang at about 7.30pm. We made 1 stop at Burger King and I had my burger, it was good...we were sitting on top of the highway, it was cool looking at the cars going below and as usual I was so happy to explore something new.....
I told my abang that I am going to write about this in my blog when he asked if I write names...I said no...everyone's identity is kept anonymous... mine including....
We had a good conversation, we talked about so many things.....at 1 point he wanted to get coffee but we missed the exit as we were busy talking and when I pointed out the following exit, he said my conversations is keeping him awake :-) a true anney speaking....
He was amazed with my point of view on religion and faith and spiritualism....then my anney came to conclusion why I don't belong to any of the Indian groups in college...and he said I am better off with him or L or S of which I agree whole heartedly....
My anney's driving was good....he drove well and I told him so too...I am starting to think he drives like a nut when in city but on a highway he is more careful..the trip home was good..the sky was clear...traffic was good and we reached Penang in 4 hours...
I was having a good time in KL...actually I do think this is the first time I went out so much when I was in KL. On Wednesday morning, I walked in Bukit Jalil park with my nephew, N, and we both enjoyed the walk and talk..you learn alot from a teenager....
Thursday, abang decided we make our trip back to Penang at 3pm and we were to meet in KL Sentral...we were both there on time and it was just the 2 of us on our way back..I had more bags on my way back...
I do think I talked alot, from the moment I got into the car I was talking till we arrived in Penang at about 7.30pm. We made 1 stop at Burger King and I had my burger, it was good...we were sitting on top of the highway, it was cool looking at the cars going below and as usual I was so happy to explore something new.....
I told my abang that I am going to write about this in my blog when he asked if I write names...I said no...everyone's identity is kept anonymous... mine including....
We had a good conversation, we talked about so many things.....at 1 point he wanted to get coffee but we missed the exit as we were busy talking and when I pointed out the following exit, he said my conversations is keeping him awake :-) a true anney speaking....
He was amazed with my point of view on religion and faith and spiritualism....then my anney came to conclusion why I don't belong to any of the Indian groups in college...and he said I am better off with him or L or S of which I agree whole heartedly....
My anney's driving was good....he drove well and I told him so too...I am starting to think he drives like a nut when in city but on a highway he is more careful..the trip home was good..the sky was clear...traffic was good and we reached Penang in 4 hours...
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Manju
I met Manju on Wednesday.....
Manju, my ex-colleague, a good friend.....who understands what I am going through as she went through the same thing as well......
The moment I saw her, I knew something is happening in her life as well......yeap...she is happy.....smiling from her heart.....she put on a bit of weight and she looks great....
We went for Old Town Cafe and we just had coffee and we were chatting for hours, catching up with stories, laughing, crying, rejoicing life... I told Manju " kalyana panni enna sadicthum, kalyana pannema enna sadikele?" I think I should phrase this in English which loosely means .."what did we achieve being married..and what are we not acheiving being single?" for that Manju agreed "well said Jay"... and we toasted for that...
When she dropped me back, we made a promise to be happy with our lives and watever happened in the past should be kept in the past and that we are moving forward now.....a promise I do not intend to break....
Manju, my ex-colleague, a good friend.....who understands what I am going through as she went through the same thing as well......
The moment I saw her, I knew something is happening in her life as well......yeap...she is happy.....smiling from her heart.....she put on a bit of weight and she looks great....
We went for Old Town Cafe and we just had coffee and we were chatting for hours, catching up with stories, laughing, crying, rejoicing life... I told Manju " kalyana panni enna sadicthum, kalyana pannema enna sadikele?" I think I should phrase this in English which loosely means .."what did we achieve being married..and what are we not acheiving being single?" for that Manju agreed "well said Jay"... and we toasted for that...
When she dropped me back, we made a promise to be happy with our lives and watever happened in the past should be kept in the past and that we are moving forward now.....a promise I do not intend to break....
Monday, July 20, 2009
BMW
I got a new set of wheels.......
On Firday last week, my colleague, L, asked if I can accompany him to buy something in Penang Road and I said yes. We went to lunch and headed back to the college when I saw a 7 series silver coloured BMW on the road and I asked L if he can buy that for me. He replied saying yes and then he asked what was it that I wanted and I told him I wanted the BMW and we burst out laughing.....
Yesterday, I went out with my anney, L and another colleague S for lunch to celebrate my life...Anney and S knows about the divorce but L does not...when we sat down for lunch I told them tat there are 2 reasons for the celebration, first it is my 2nd year working in the college. The second reason of course was tougher to tell as L does not know anything about it, so the other 2 just encouraged me to tell it and when I told the reason for the celebration, L just said everything will be okay. He added now that he knows I am single and available, it is time I go out and meet people and the best way is to get a sportier car and he just put a model of a BMW 3 series infront of me.....I was so touched and the other two were clapping away......we made so much noise at lunch yesterday, laughing and eating and just being happy for being together....
I told P earlier that we shall go out on Aug 10 to celebrate this as that would be the official day the lawyer told me but since it happened earlier, I am celebrating my life as a free person with all the people who mean alot to me.......
On Firday last week, my colleague, L, asked if I can accompany him to buy something in Penang Road and I said yes. We went to lunch and headed back to the college when I saw a 7 series silver coloured BMW on the road and I asked L if he can buy that for me. He replied saying yes and then he asked what was it that I wanted and I told him I wanted the BMW and we burst out laughing.....
Yesterday, I went out with my anney, L and another colleague S for lunch to celebrate my life...Anney and S knows about the divorce but L does not...when we sat down for lunch I told them tat there are 2 reasons for the celebration, first it is my 2nd year working in the college. The second reason of course was tougher to tell as L does not know anything about it, so the other 2 just encouraged me to tell it and when I told the reason for the celebration, L just said everything will be okay. He added now that he knows I am single and available, it is time I go out and meet people and the best way is to get a sportier car and he just put a model of a BMW 3 series infront of me.....I was so touched and the other two were clapping away......we made so much noise at lunch yesterday, laughing and eating and just being happy for being together....
I told P earlier that we shall go out on Aug 10 to celebrate this as that would be the official day the lawyer told me but since it happened earlier, I am celebrating my life as a free person with all the people who mean alot to me.......
Monday, June 22, 2009
My Partner
He is sweet.......
My study partner is a sweet guy, why do I say so? He carries my notebook when I am with him, he opens the door to the car, he greets me with his cheerful voice...he is just a gentleman. I really thought I have met a guy who is very sweet and I could have lost my heart to him if he is not married.....
18 June was his birthday and he picked my up from my house to go out for lunch. I took the day off....was it because of him...I donno...but I was at home and I went out with him and we enjoyed our lunch...we spent 2 hours over lunch.......chatting.........catching up......well we did not meet for a month so we had lots to talk......we shared a toast :-)
Well, last weekend, I found out something about him, he is the classic guy....the one who provides and takes care of the family and he is also the kind that decides everything and the wife should just follow everything he says.......somehow, that broke my heart a bit..... but then I realised, I am not married to him, so it is okay for him to be who he is...
I guess everyone of us have two sides of our lives.......1 that we show to everyone and the other that we show to selected people......and I saw a glimpse of my partner over the weekend that he does not show to everyone!!
My study partner is a sweet guy, why do I say so? He carries my notebook when I am with him, he opens the door to the car, he greets me with his cheerful voice...he is just a gentleman. I really thought I have met a guy who is very sweet and I could have lost my heart to him if he is not married.....
18 June was his birthday and he picked my up from my house to go out for lunch. I took the day off....was it because of him...I donno...but I was at home and I went out with him and we enjoyed our lunch...we spent 2 hours over lunch.......chatting.........catching up......well we did not meet for a month so we had lots to talk......we shared a toast :-)
Well, last weekend, I found out something about him, he is the classic guy....the one who provides and takes care of the family and he is also the kind that decides everything and the wife should just follow everything he says.......somehow, that broke my heart a bit..... but then I realised, I am not married to him, so it is okay for him to be who he is...
I guess everyone of us have two sides of our lives.......1 that we show to everyone and the other that we show to selected people......and I saw a glimpse of my partner over the weekend that he does not show to everyone!!
Friday, May 1, 2009
Meeting my friends
I met my friends for lunch today....
ESI and Dumbo were in town and I met them for lunch. It was a good meeting...ESI is 7 months into her pregnancy....she looks round:-) Dumbo was teasing her endlessly and it was a jovial mood during lunch....
My god daughter was there, looking all lovely and she loved the bangles...her mom tried the pottu on her but she did not like it...I do think the punjabi suit is going to look nice on my god daughter, J. Dumbo was teasing me of making my god daughter turn into an Indian:-)
J gave me a wonderful hug and a kiss when I said good bye to her...perhaps that was Krshna's way to tell me that I have a daughter as well...
Oh by the way, Dumbo has still not proposed to Jo....only god knows when he is going to do that but he did say the wedding might be next year so we are all crossing our fingers...Jo was there...she looked great and we did not say a word to her about the ring...the first thing I did was to look for the ring on her finger and when it was not there I knew my Dumbo did not pop the question yet!!
I am praying that ESI will deliver her baby girl without any problems and everything will be fine...I know Krshna will make it easier for ESI the second time......
ESI and Dumbo were in town and I met them for lunch. It was a good meeting...ESI is 7 months into her pregnancy....she looks round:-) Dumbo was teasing her endlessly and it was a jovial mood during lunch....
My god daughter was there, looking all lovely and she loved the bangles...her mom tried the pottu on her but she did not like it...I do think the punjabi suit is going to look nice on my god daughter, J. Dumbo was teasing me of making my god daughter turn into an Indian:-)
J gave me a wonderful hug and a kiss when I said good bye to her...perhaps that was Krshna's way to tell me that I have a daughter as well...
Oh by the way, Dumbo has still not proposed to Jo....only god knows when he is going to do that but he did say the wedding might be next year so we are all crossing our fingers...Jo was there...she looked great and we did not say a word to her about the ring...the first thing I did was to look for the ring on her finger and when it was not there I knew my Dumbo did not pop the question yet!!
I am praying that ESI will deliver her baby girl without any problems and everything will be fine...I know Krshna will make it easier for ESI the second time......
Thursday, April 23, 2009
Pink
I am in pink today....
Asked doc what colour saree shall I tie tomorrow and the suggestion was pink :-) I had to drag myself out of bed this morning, I am still tired and lacking sleep...well, I found a pink saree with wild roses....it is a soft baby pink....then tot I shall accessories today with pink bangles and yes I have 2 dozens bangles on my right hand...too much right? But then again...wat else do I get to do that is crazy at work?
Morning as I walked into college everyone was calling me Ms Pinky...that is how pink I am...someone told me to apply lipstick, I obliged so now I have a soft pink coloured lips :-) I know it is not a raving hot red lipstick but somehow I know it is sweet and inviting :-) Now who am I invitinglah? Tak ada siapapun here...sigh....grins...
I am smiling or I am trying to smile and trying to forget about May 8th.
Yesterday evening, went swimming with Ms L and I told her about May 8th, she volunteered to come with me, my anney too said he will come with me, to give me the support I need....I donno if I am going to cry or not when I am there but somehow I know, now, I have two good friends with me there...a Chinese lady and a Malay man to be next to me....Krshna...I know I am blessed!
I will be fine and I promise I will smile...today and always......
Asked doc what colour saree shall I tie tomorrow and the suggestion was pink :-) I had to drag myself out of bed this morning, I am still tired and lacking sleep...well, I found a pink saree with wild roses....it is a soft baby pink....then tot I shall accessories today with pink bangles and yes I have 2 dozens bangles on my right hand...too much right? But then again...wat else do I get to do that is crazy at work?
Morning as I walked into college everyone was calling me Ms Pinky...that is how pink I am...someone told me to apply lipstick, I obliged so now I have a soft pink coloured lips :-) I know it is not a raving hot red lipstick but somehow I know it is sweet and inviting :-) Now who am I invitinglah? Tak ada siapapun here...sigh....grins...
I am smiling or I am trying to smile and trying to forget about May 8th.
Yesterday evening, went swimming with Ms L and I told her about May 8th, she volunteered to come with me, my anney too said he will come with me, to give me the support I need....I donno if I am going to cry or not when I am there but somehow I know, now, I have two good friends with me there...a Chinese lady and a Malay man to be next to me....Krshna...I know I am blessed!
I will be fine and I promise I will smile...today and always......
Thursday, April 2, 2009
Dumbo & his 10k diamond ring
Dumbo is going to propose.........
I am so happy and excited about this....Dumbo, finally is taking his relationship to the next level...he got the diamond ring yesterday but he is not sure how and when he is going to ask Jo to marry him.....it is nice to be part of his life...sharing the moment last nite...his excitement...his unsureness....
Well, we tried to figure out how long has it been he was with Jo and how he met her and how he fell in love with her...it was good...both Dumbo and I tot marriage was not necessary...it is just the commitment when he became paranoid and checked his phone to see if it was off!! I told him, if only Jo knew that we were having this conversation at 3am in Subaidah...she is surely not going to invite me for the wedding!!
I told him that I am going to tie my purple saree..guju style...and I am going to be 1 of his wedding planner...we were so excited...and he has not even proposed to her yet :-)
The ring looked fantastic.....just perfect for Jo...he was worried she might not like it when I asked him if he likes it..he said yes....then told him...don't worry...she'll love it...
I am so happy...been grinning and guess what...I felt like telling the whole world that he is getting married soon...I am just happy....
Last nite, Dumbo asked me to go out and meet ppl...I said no, I am happy as I am now...but he kept telling that I will meet someone when I least expect it...well...told him if that is the case, then I shall not even attempt to meet anyone...since I am not expecting it to happen kan!!
I dono which part of it is logical-lah but who is looking at logic and understanding and reasoning a woman!!!
I had a great time with Dumbo last nite...he dropped me back at 3.30am ... I was tired but I was happy....and that matters.....
I am so happy and excited about this....Dumbo, finally is taking his relationship to the next level...he got the diamond ring yesterday but he is not sure how and when he is going to ask Jo to marry him.....it is nice to be part of his life...sharing the moment last nite...his excitement...his unsureness....
Well, we tried to figure out how long has it been he was with Jo and how he met her and how he fell in love with her...it was good...both Dumbo and I tot marriage was not necessary...it is just the commitment when he became paranoid and checked his phone to see if it was off!! I told him, if only Jo knew that we were having this conversation at 3am in Subaidah...she is surely not going to invite me for the wedding!!
I told him that I am going to tie my purple saree..guju style...and I am going to be 1 of his wedding planner...we were so excited...and he has not even proposed to her yet :-)
The ring looked fantastic.....just perfect for Jo...he was worried she might not like it when I asked him if he likes it..he said yes....then told him...don't worry...she'll love it...
I am so happy...been grinning and guess what...I felt like telling the whole world that he is getting married soon...I am just happy....
Last nite, Dumbo asked me to go out and meet ppl...I said no, I am happy as I am now...but he kept telling that I will meet someone when I least expect it...well...told him if that is the case, then I shall not even attempt to meet anyone...since I am not expecting it to happen kan!!
I dono which part of it is logical-lah but who is looking at logic and understanding and reasoning a woman!!!
I had a great time with Dumbo last nite...he dropped me back at 3.30am ... I was tired but I was happy....and that matters.....
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
My friend and her crush
Went out for lunch with P yesterday...
As I could not finish my assignment on Sunday, I took off on Monday to continue on my assignment and so went out for lunch with P. After lunch we bumped into this guy whom she has hugh crush on and she had always wanted to introduce him to me.. anyhow, when we met yesterday, she introduced him to me but did not introduce me to him!
She was so like a teenager...so happy to see him that she totally forgot I was there...macam mana to have a friend like this lah? :-)
My friend and her crush!!!
As I could not finish my assignment on Sunday, I took off on Monday to continue on my assignment and so went out for lunch with P. After lunch we bumped into this guy whom she has hugh crush on and she had always wanted to introduce him to me.. anyhow, when we met yesterday, she introduced him to me but did not introduce me to him!
She was so like a teenager...so happy to see him that she totally forgot I was there...macam mana to have a friend like this lah? :-)
My friend and her crush!!!
Thursday, January 29, 2009
I went on the facebook rather late...was not into facebook nor friendster.....
I have 2 reasons why I went on facebook, the first is to find Abang....Abang was a childhood friend, I think I knew Abang when we were 3 or 4 years old, Abang's mom n dad will leave Abang with my parents when they go to work. Abang n I went to kiddy together and we were best of friends. We won't cut our birthday cake if the other is not present, well, we were VIPs in each others life..
When we were 8 years old, Abang's dad got posted to Bukit Aman and we were too young to know the importance to keep in touch. Since then, I am looking for Abang, I have tried going through yellow pages looking for him, googled his name n etc and now I am on facebook to look for Abang...
Another reason, a 47 + year old someone I know, who does not even know how to check his mails, was on facebook and that really made me snap, I know it is a dumb reason but I donno why, I just tot it was ridiculous if I am not on facebook :-)
Well anyway, the reason for this entry...that 47+ year old someone told me that now I can change my status to single and I did and I have so far received 5 quieries on what has happened....I have not replied anyone yet....will take my own time to get back to them....
I have 2 reasons why I went on facebook, the first is to find Abang....Abang was a childhood friend, I think I knew Abang when we were 3 or 4 years old, Abang's mom n dad will leave Abang with my parents when they go to work. Abang n I went to kiddy together and we were best of friends. We won't cut our birthday cake if the other is not present, well, we were VIPs in each others life..
When we were 8 years old, Abang's dad got posted to Bukit Aman and we were too young to know the importance to keep in touch. Since then, I am looking for Abang, I have tried going through yellow pages looking for him, googled his name n etc and now I am on facebook to look for Abang...
Another reason, a 47 + year old someone I know, who does not even know how to check his mails, was on facebook and that really made me snap, I know it is a dumb reason but I donno why, I just tot it was ridiculous if I am not on facebook :-)
Well anyway, the reason for this entry...that 47+ year old someone told me that now I can change my status to single and I did and I have so far received 5 quieries on what has happened....I have not replied anyone yet....will take my own time to get back to them....
Monday, January 19, 2009
Brother n Sister ...Love & Hate Relationship
U know how brothers and sisters are? Sometimes at each other's throat and at times the best of buddies... well this is the tale of my good friend and her colleague.
These two sometimes will be at logger heads and the next moment I know they will be going out for lunch or tea and having a good time talking as if nothing happened. According to my friend, it is a love and hate relationship....according to me, peas in a pod!!
Well, for me, I am enjoying all these tantrums and get-together..... I am just waiting to see when the next argument is coming :-)
These two sometimes will be at logger heads and the next moment I know they will be going out for lunch or tea and having a good time talking as if nothing happened. According to my friend, it is a love and hate relationship....according to me, peas in a pod!!
Well, for me, I am enjoying all these tantrums and get-together..... I am just waiting to see when the next argument is coming :-)
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